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Thursday, March 23, 2006
Heroes
What makes a hero heroic?
I believe the answer to this question bysteps popular belief that men have to be all things to all people. I'm drawn to alpha men in my writing and in my own life. That doesn't mean, of course, that I don't appreciate a man who'll do the dishes once in a while. It just means I'm more drawn to a man who is willing to be confident in the face of risk more than some ultra sensitive guy who's more concerned with androgyny than protecting his woman. True, his manliness may endanger her along the way as well if she doesn't help him figure out that it's okay to be let down his guard once in a while. (She secretly takes a certain satisfaction in polishing off his rough edges.) Such men appeal to our need for security. That doesn't automatically render a heroine a wimp either. It just makes her feel feminine and safe and loved in a world that is placing increasing demands on her.
A hero should offer his woman his full attention when he takes her on a romantic date. Although he is ambition oriented, he knows when to call an end to a business day and focus on what his soul mate has to say. He listens. He may be tempted to rush in and save the day when all she really wants is to have a discussion that will help her figure things out herself, but he really listens nonetheless. He makes her feel beautiful. And she makes him feel like the hero of all his boyhood dreams.
Of course, it doesn't hurt if she's wildly attracted to him physically as well. . .
posted by Cathleen Galitz at 5:12 AM
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